Marital challenges are ubiquitous in the relationships of doctors. Common issues include overwork, a need for control, self-neglect, perceived and felt stigma, being a “wounded healer”, trouble with boundaries, chemical dependency, depression, and more. Knowing the hallmarks of a healthy relationship, recognising warning signals of trouble, and taking action through suggested strategies can be salutary.
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- Department of Psychiatry, University of British Columbia, Vancouver, BC, Canada.
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